If you are having a hard time letting go of the limiting idea that there is something wrong with you or that you are broken and need fixing, then you are not alone.

Let us repeat this, you are not alone.

If you are reading this right now, know that there is a whole community here at ming+ming struggling, supporting each other, and trying new tools to help shift how we speak to ourselves from harsh judgment and disappointment to love and compassion.

When we discover and acknowledge our negative reel, it also comes with accepting our flaws and shortcomings. It’s in this first crucial step of recognizing our negative reel that we address what we say and how we talk to ourselves all the time. And it’s with this new understanding that we are able to find the tools we need to help ourselves improve, shift, and change.

“If you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them. If you argue for those limits, they’re yours.”

- Jim Kwik on the On Purpose podcast with Jay Shetty (Feb 3, 2020)

As with all our tools, this podcast helped us loosen our grip on our limiting beliefs and the facades we have built around them. It shifts our perspectives that have been taught to us, ingrained into us, and validated through decades of cultural “norms.”

The objective for sharing our tools is to give you an alternative to something you’ve only known. Our tools have given us the ability to shift our perspectives, give us the courage to try something new and provide us with hope that change is absolutely possible and within our control.

These are the tools that have helped us identify our negative reels and to start quieting them down. We would love to hear your feedback on these tools if you have tried them. Please share your stories in the comment section below.

Ming-Cee’s tools include:

• social media detox

• podcasts and TED talks (Jim Kwik, Mel Robbins + Marisa Peer)

• meditation class + yoga for sleep

Ming-Wai's tools include:

• crystals

• reiki

• Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Reprinted with permission by ming + ming