You're invited to the ming+ming retreat

We know you're busy.
We know you have a ton of responsibilities.
We know you don't have enough time.

Here’s your solution - take a long weekend just for YOU in January 2025!

Let us take care of you... so you can be the best version of yourself and feel confident moving forward when you get back home. 

We'll see you in San Luis Obispo on January 16-20, 2025.

Experience complete nourishment of your mind, body and spirit for 5 blissful days on California’s central coast. 

No cooking or cleaning. Take a break from your never ending to-do list. Step away from the roles and responsibilities you manage for everyone else.

Enjoy fresh, healthy chef-prepared meals. We’ll even have nourishing snacks in between!

Enjoy daily guided movement and meditation classes that are designed to meet you where you’re at, not where others expect you to be. (Beginners are highly encouraged to attend!)

Invest in the freedom of down time to do exactly what YOU want to do without judgment like taking a nap, reading a book, soaking in the hot tub, going on a hike, or star gazing right before a restful night’s sleep.

And finally, you’ll learn the ming+ming 11-step method that will help you learn to connect with yourself on a deeper level. You will discover your own creative solutions and move forward with more ease and confidence in your decisions, no matter how busy life gets.

We guarantee that you will leave feeling refreshed and rejuvenated, but more importantly, you’ll leave feeling confident you have the right foundation that will lead to incredible transformations.

We got you. You got you.

Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

PS…
Thinking of gifts for the Holiday Season? Help support a small business in Asheville!

When Ming-Cee was in Asheville a couple months ago, she literally wanted to get one of everything at Mangum Pottery. Our friends, Beth and Rob Mangum, are incredible potters and it’s our favorite shop in town.

Buy early holiday presents and help the Mangums get through this slow time as we rebuild the Asheville area.

Ming-Cee’s favorite - The Divine Feminine Mug

Do you love Ming-Cee’s mug? It’s not on their website because it was made by their daughter. Their daughter’s entire studio flooded but she’s safe. If you’re interested in buying one, reach out to me and I’ll ask them if she has any more.

Processing the Aftermath of Hurricane Helene

I left Asheville last Wednesday to attend the Mindful Leader Summit in DC. I knew the storm was forecasted but I didn't think it was going to be more than a windy and rainy couple of days. That's what hurricanes typically feel like when they get to us because we're inland and in the mountains.

Friday morning, I got a message from my husband reporting some trees were down, the house was fine, but the power was out so I should call the landline. Pretty typical.

So I call the landline. And it just rings.

A few hours later, I try again. Nothing.

Friday afternoon, I try again. The line is dead. It's not even ringing.

And this is when I start getting super anxious and worrying about the worst case scenarios.

For 24 hours, I'm worrying internally while trying to act normal at my conference. There's still no way to get in touch with my family.

It's so ironic that I'm at a mindfulness conference too! There is yoga and meditation in the morning. We have movement breaks between sessions. We start sessions with moments of silence.

But these "good-for-you" mindfulness exercises were actually heightening my anxiety.

Saturday afternoon, I finally get in touch with my husband. Our family is safe. We have a generator. We have water. Still no power, no phone, no cell service... and no clue when it will restored. Our community looks like a war zone.

I'm sharing this with you because I was reminded that mindfulness, meditation, yoga, and all these tools don't magically take away our anxiety, grief, and discomfort. Sometimes, they actually heighten our emotions.

What I am grateful for is that my mindfulness tools gave me a choice. A choice to feel in control vs. freaking out.

During the 24 hours where I couldn't get in touch with anyone, I desperately scrolled social media searching for news and pictures of my community. But I chose to turn it off when I realized scrolling wasn't going to give me the answers I was seeking. Instead, I chose to do breathing exercises so that I could fall asleep.

I still felt uncomfortable, but the discomfort wasn't controlling me. I felt in control of my well-being even though I was worrying about my family and friends.

To be honest, I'm processing what I'll be coming home to and I'm worried. And that's normal and okay to feel so I'm not trying to "fix" anything. I just give myself permission to feel it.

Thank you to everyone who has called, texted, messaged to check in and make sure we're okay. It's meant a lot to see and feel your love.

In deep gratitude,
Ming-Wai

The center of our little town is flooded and washed out.

This is the bottom of our road. The river of water you see is usually a creek. 

What strikes me about this photo is that it's so beautiful. So much damage and destruction... but when the sun comes out, there is hope and inspiration.

Don’t be a faker...

Let’s face it, we’ve been conditioned to perform since we were little (aka fake it).  

We were told to behave well, dress the part, and color inside the lines. That way we’d be accepted by our family, friends and community.  And for the most part, we nailed it!

We’re really successful in most aspects of our lives because we’ve been trained to do things the “right” way and meet others' expectations. We have worked hard to get where we are today - doing hard work isn’t our problem.  

So what is the problem?

The problem is, despite our high achievements and recognition for jobs well done, we can’t shake the deeper knowing that there’s a disconnect between our successful image and how we actually feel on the inside.

When something is missing, like a certain quality in a relationship or a deep questioning of whether all our hard work has been worth the sacrifice, we become overwhelmed with confusion because we’ve spent most of our lives performing to a script.

So how can the performance that's provided so much of our success, be the same thing that’s keeping us stuck?

It’s because the performance is based on how others measure our worth.

However, when we do this a million times over, it becomes a subconscious pattern. Without even knowing it, we become detached from ourselves. We don’t even know what we want anymore. We only know how to be “good enough” in the eyes of others.

Over time as we continue the performance our identity gets lost and we develop a mistrust in our own decisions without understanding why. We begin to believe that looking good on the outside will be at the expense of feeling like shit on the inside.

We understand because we felt that way too. But not anymore.

Now we know that we can look good on the outside and feel grounded, vibrant, and confident on the inside too!

That’s why we created the ming+ming method that took us from overwhelming confusion to deeper understanding and clarity. 

The ming+ming 11 step process guides you back home to yourself so you can start discovering your own answers to stop performing and start living authentically.

So if you’re exhausted from performing, click the “heart” and leave a comment below. We’ll tell you how to unlearn the performance script and get you back in control of your life.

We got you. You got you.

Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

Parenting doesn't come with instructions

You can't get a degree in parenting before having kids. And even if you could, it wouldn't make you the perfect parent. 

Parenting is challenging to say the least, and for the most part, each generation is just trying to do their best for the next.

So despite all the books, the warnings, and the lectures on parenting best practices... nothing could actually prepare us for what we were about to experience.

We assume our parents feel similarly. And their parents before them. We're all just doing the best we can!

But many of us are still healing from inconsistent, controlling, or emotionally unavailable parents.

Many of us are struggling to manage difficult emotions like anger, shame, and people-pleasing tendencies that we learned in childhood.

You weren't born with instructions and so it's time you learn the skills to re-parent yourself!

 SIGN UP NOW

 Our friend and mindful reparenting expert, Bonnie, will guide this interactive 3-hour workshop.

This Mindful Reparenting Workshop is for you if you want to:

• Heal from inconsistent, controlling, or emotionally unavailable parents.

• Overcome self-doubt, fear, perfectionism, overthinking, low self-worth, and critical self-talk.

• Learn to manage difficult emotions like anger, shame, and people-pleasing tendencies.

• Develop healthy self-compassion and a strong sense of self-worth.

• Break free from emotional reactivity and build healthier coping mechanisms.

Sign up today for $99. And don’t forget, ming+ming members sign up for FREE!

You don’t want to miss this powerful healing opportunity, but if you do, don’t worry, we email you a recording.

We got you. You got you.

Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

Mindful Reparenting Workshop
SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 8TH
noon - 3pm eastern | 9am - noon pacific
$75 before 8/31 ($99 after)
FREE for ming+ming members

SIGN UP NOW

Reparenting... and it's not just for parents

Can we tell you about Mindful Reparenting? 

It has nothing to do with if we had "good" parents or "bad" parents. We can all agree that our parents were doing the best they could (just like we are doing the best we can!) so let's put the blame aside for a moment.

We want to introduce you to our friend and reparenting expert, Bonnie. Next month, she will be leading you through guided meditations, interactive exercises, and teach you practical tools to build your understanding and compassion toward yourself.

If you are looking for deep healing to move past the feelings of blame, judgement, and animosity, you have to learn the skills to give YOURSELF the emotional support that you needed as a child.

That's why we are so excited to offer our next skill-building workshop: Mindful Reparenting!

In this one-day 3-hour workshop, you will be introduced to Mindful Reparenting skills that will allow you to give yourself the love, attention, and understanding you always deserved, but maybe didn't get as child. This online workshop is designed to help you understand and heal your younger self so you break free from the patterns holding you back from living your best life. 

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 8TH
noon - 3pm eastern | 9am - noon pacific
$75 before 8/31 ($99 after)
FREE for ming+ming members
SIGN UP NOW

We got you. You got you.
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

Hi, I'm Ming-Wai and I stopped talking for 5 days

The most common response I got when I told friends and co-workers that I was going on a 5-day silent meditation retreat was: Whoa, that’s intense.

And this surprised me because many of these people have hobbies that I find way more intense than meditating - like daily cold plunges, marathon running, or week-long backpacking trips in the wild.

But I acknowledge that meditation can feel intense sometimes. And my experience at this 5-day silent retreat was transformative because of it.

So what is a silent retreat? The meditation style of my retreat is called Vipassana and is held in “noble silence.” This not only means no talking, but also requires no reading, no journaling, and no eye contact. The meditation teacher does an evening talk about meditation principles to focus on, she will do guided meditations occasionally, and they offer some yoga classes. But other than that, the rest of our days were spent in seated or walking silent meditation.

My first 2 days felt strange but I really enjoyed not having to cook, clean, answer questions, make decisions, etc. It felt like vacation! The hardest part was walking by someone and not making eye contact. I also noticed that I missed that connection with people and missed small talk. I would want to ask where they got that sticker on their water bottle or where they got that sweater. But I’m a rule follower so I kept my eyes down and stayed in silence.

By the end of the third day, I was ready to binge watch some Netflix. I remember after dinner that night, I went to my bunk (yes, the room reminded me of a nicer version of my 5th grade sleep away camp) and grabbed my flashlight and thought how nice it would be to turn on my phone and chill the rest of the evening. 

But then I heard the gong that signaled our evening silent sitting meditation and shuffled back to the meditation room to keep hanging out with myself and my breath… again.

The view outside the meditation room

By the fourth day, I was starting to get really emotional. We did a guided meditation focusing on people that loved us unconditionally and tears were streaming down my cheeks as I visualized and felt the love that I am surrounded with in my life. I spent the rest of the day exploring these feelings, recognizing how blessed I am, embracing my worthiness to have such love, and noticing my negative reel when I questioned these truths.

On the morning of the fifth day, I woke up and thought how nice it would be to come home to my kids and husband and the tears welled up in my eyes again! During our walking meditation that morning, I hiked up to a little clearing and was looking over the valley. I was thinking about my purpose in life, where I wanted to put my energy, and all the people who support and love me… and there was about 10-15 seconds where I got a taste of how it felt to be truly embodied. In that short moment, I felt like I didn’t NEED anything. I recognized that I had everything that I needed and that I have the ability to choose how I wanted to invest my energy and move forward in alignment with my values and purpose. It was a feeling of intense freedom! And of course, I started crying again.

Within 10 minutes, I recognized how fleeting that feeling of freedom was. I was back in my head, feeling annoyed with something my sister said 2 weeks ago, trying to focus on my breath, wondering what would be served for dinner, and all the usual distractions of the mind.

And that was the transformative realization of my 5-day silent meditation experience. I cherish that taste of freedom that I got. But I also appreciate all the discomfort that I experienced during this retreat too. The discomfort of sharing a room, sleeping in a bunk bed, getting bug bites, not being able to complain about it, feeling all my emotions but not being able to talk or journal about it, and knowing that the only way forward is going within myself. The goal of this retreat (and of life) isn’t always to live in peace, tranquility, and attain enlightenment. No, the goal is to have the courage to experience it ALL and just be.

If you are interested in doing a silent meditation retreat, check out my review of Mindful Shenandoah Valley.

P.S. BIG NEWS! We're planning our first ming+ming retreat near San Luis Obispo at Sagrada Wellness in January 2025. Stay tuned!

put in the time or keep doing the crime

What do I want to change in my life?

This may be a simple question for some, but generally it’s very difficult to answer. We believe that most of us are terrified of change since deep down we know how difficult it is to get there. So instead, we just keep talking about how we wish things were different.

Talking about what we want to change is the easy part. But in order for real change to happen, we need to ask ourselves a much harder follow-up question:

Am I ready to put in the effort to make this change a reality?

This is where it gets uncomfortable - and understandably so! We must get to a point where the discomfort of change is worth more than suffering the status quo.
And that looks different for everyone depending on where we want to make that next change. What may seem like an easy decision in one aspect of our lives, could seem nearly impossible in another. Some may be willing to wake up early for a 5am workout, but may not be willing to give up their 5pm cocktails.

So taking the time to really unpack and discover what needs to change in our life is the only way to take the first steps towards healing our discomfort, pain and suffering.

And if you discover that you are not ready for change, then we suggest you don’t! If you're not willing to put in the time, then we suggest you continue doing the crime.

The female author George Eliot (it’s a pen name!) writes "It's never too late to be who you were meant to be." It’s okay if you’re not ready because that's part of the complexity of the healing journey. Give yourself grace to find the right time for you.

Generally, it’s the fear of the unknown that keeps us frozen. We won’t be able to move forward until we recognize and address that fear. Until then, we will be stuck in a cycle where our actions will be short-lived or half-assed without real dedication and lacking grit.

So when you are ready to put in the time, we are here to help you…

For most of us, our first step is just figuring out how to pause long enough and quiet things down to ask ourselves: “am I really ready to change?” If so, how do I get there? And If not, what is it that is keeping me stuck?

At ming+ming we offer that pause. We provide a quiet and supportive space to ask the hard questions and to answer them honestly. You can come to us and join our group classes or we can come to you for 1-on-1 coaching sessions. We are here to support you when you’re ready to invest in yourself so you can start enjoying this life you work so hard to create.

How to Live Authentically

We’ve all heard it before: “you do you” they say, but what if we don’t know who YOU is?

Within a split instant, you’ve already filtered through how “you doing you” will…
…add stress to someone's life
…affect the way others view you
…interrupt someone’s plans
So in that instant, you’ve chosen to appease others all while believing it’s what you want too.

It’s not until you have feelings of regret and resentment that you start to realize what you agreed to isn't really what YOU want to do.

Why?

Because you can’t DO you if you don’t KNOW you.

What we’ve discovered is that “the journey” is YOU. It’s discovering who we are and what we need despite what others expect from us.

When we talk about living a life with more confidence and ease, it all boils down to understanding WHY you do what you do.

So if you…
…commit to things you really don’t want to do, or
…accept treatment that you know you don’t deserve, or
…bend backwards to make sure everyone else is taken care of first,
then we have the tool for you.

The way to find YOU in all the noise is to invest time in knowing your values. Values-Based Decision Making (VDBM) is our go-to tool for learning how to make the best decisions with no regrets and no second-guessing.

We gain confidence knowing our choices are in alignment with our values, so we can express ourselves freely and authentically.

Ready to start living the YOU DO YOU life but don’t know where to start?  YOU start here.

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

QUIZ   |   CLASSES   |   TOOLS

It’s the tools, you Fool!

Tools make life easier - we all know that.  But when we have so many tools to choose from, it can be confusing and overwhelming to know which is the best tool for you!

We all have limited time, money and energy, so it can be the fear of choosing the wrong tool and wasting our time and money that keeps us stuck!  We know because we’ve been there.

That’s why we want to make it easier on you! We try the tools and then suggest to you which tools have helped us (and continue to help) so you don’t have to waste your precious time, money and energy.

Our tools page isn’t a cheat sheet for a quick fix. No, our suggestions and our tools page makes it easier for you to create your own pathway towards self discovery. Because you’re no fool!

Here’s a few tools we love and suggest as a great place to get started!
Netflix: Stutz - this documentary redefined therapy for me
Podcast: The Mel Robbins Podcast–6 Signs You’re Disconnected From Your Power and How to Get it Back: Life Changing Advice From the Remarkable Dr. Thema Bryant
Crystals: The Crystal Code and the Healing Sanctuary

Be sure to leave a comment after you use the tools so we can help others choose the tool that works best for them!

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

our story

our story

As sisters, we spent our childhood growing up in the same house, in the same town, and with the same parents. Eventually we found ourselves on opposite coasts, both on autopilot living our “perfect” lives.  We were focused on getting married, having children, climbing the corporate ladder, and buying homes in the suburbs. It looked like we were living the dream…on the outside.

our struggles

In hindsight, Ming-Wai was struggling with burnout and anxiety, and Ming-Cee was suffering from postpartum depression and chronic pain. But we thought we needed to push through it, ignoring the signs until things became so uncomfortable that we couldn’t contain it anymore.  We were hesitant to share our struggles with anyone else because we felt that our problems weren’t “real” problems. So we suffered in silence while simultaneously feeling guilty that we weren’t enjoying our lives.

our steps

ming+ming was born from our personal struggles and the path we found through them. In the beginning we felt lost, discouraged, and hesitant to buy something that had no guarantee of even working. We’ve battled with depression, anxiety, denial, self-doubt, and a debilitating fear of the unknown, but now we know it’s all for a bigger purpose. 

In the process, Ming-Wai became a certified yoga teacher, meditation coach, and energy worker using tarot, crystals, and reiki. Ming-Cee joined her sister as both a business partner and a life coach. It’s been a long, winding road and the struggles are still real but after years of inner work, and trying a multitude of tools for personal growth, we're bringing you the process that actually works: the 11 steps to change your life.

our inspiration

 We created ming+ming to bring all of the resources, tools, and a supportive community into one place. Our personal growth platform provides clarity around your struggles, which pinpoints exactly where to start when you’re ready for real change in your life. And our growing community creates a safe space that reminds us all that we aren’t meant to do this alone.

The truth is that when you’re on a personal growth journey, it takes a lot of dedication, patience, and honesty to reach your goals. At ming+ming, we make the process clear, providing you with the steps and support to find that deeper understanding within so you can enjoy the life you work so hard to create. 

what step are you on?

I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really…

“I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really... get busy living or get busy dying."

- Andy Dufresne (played by Tim Robbins) in The Shawshank Redemption

As living creatures, we are all works in progress because that is our human design, like on a Darwin kind of level.  Meaning we’re all faced with the evolutionary tale of adapt or die.  Thankfully, so far, our species has opted for survival. 

When we say that the healing journey is a lifelong journey (not an accomplishment to be checked off or a singular milestone to be celebrated), we acknowledge that some will be discouraged from even starting. But what we want to present is a shift in perspective: from a never ending daunting haul to the privilege of choice. This is only granted to those who are 1) alive and 2) willing to do hard things because deep down, they know they deserve it.

The reason this is a long-term commitment is because we believe the path toward self healing and growth is all about self discovery.  And since we’ve chosen to evolve and adapt instead of going extinct, change is the survival strategy. Therefore, there will always be more to discover about ourselves.

So, if you are one to correlate the need for change with being flawed, then you will stay imprisoned and stuck in your own life. However, if you are able to shift your mindset and see change as the human progression of evolution, then we are here to help set you free.  Because even if you accept constant change as a fact of life, it doesn’t make it any easier.  That’s where ming+ming comes in.

With clear-cut steps that build off one another, curated classes to strength the skills you’ll need to face difficult challenges and persevere, surrounding yourself with a community of individuals committed to the same growth, AND access to reliable tool recommendations based on your unique needs, you will be able to manage these changes with more ease, confidence and enjoyment!

So take it from Andy Dufresne: “Get busy living or get busy dying.” We've chosen living and we think you should too.

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

HAPPY NEW YOU! 🥳

Let’s be honest, who has the time to work on themselves while our sanity is hanging on by a thread during the holidays?

Not us. This is a time when we give ourselves grace for falling back into old patterns instead of shaming ourselves for falling off the wagon… again.

We realize it’s not about the all or none, it’s about the overall blend in life. And what works for us may not work for you. What we believe is that we’re all just trying our best, but sometimes our best can be compromised by additional stress. And that’s okay because that is life.

What we hope for you (and for ourselves), is that now the holiday stress is behind us and we can continue to go down the path of personal growth. January is a great time to reflect back (without judgment) to realize that though we might have fallen back on some comfortable habits, we know now that those habits don’t serve us in the long run.

They are distractions that feel good in the moment, but don’t have real, lasting benefits and it’s what keeps us stuck in a pattern that no longer serves us. So for us, January is a great time to start fresh, recalibrate and start moving forward.

If you are with us and inspired to make healthier, intentional choices, then let’s do it together!

We are excited to announce that we will be offering FREE monthly coaching sessions every 3rd Tuesday of the month. Join us 8pm ET | 5pm PT January 16th, for our FIRST live coaching session.  All you have to do is bring yourself and we can get started!

I Want Coaching!

We can’t wait to see you there. But until then, relax and enjoy the end of the holiday season.

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

So thankful for YOU!

We're grateful for you.

You might not know this, but this ming+ming community if not only for you. It's for us too.

When we first started on this healing journey about 5 years ago, we were frustrated and didn't know where to start. We were stressed all the time and hiding our struggles from our friends, our families, and from each other. We felt ashamed that we couldn't figure out how to fix ourselves. And we definitely didn't WANT to change because we had worked so hard to build our beautiful lives.

But we had to change. The trajectory of our lives was not sustainable, but the wellness industry was overwhelming and we didn't know who to trust.

So we trusted in each other. We shared our fears, our traumas, our shame, our inspirations, and our dreams of a life of freedom from the stresses we were living everyday. We supported each other to try new tools. We shared articles, podcasts, and books that helped give us deeper understanding into our stuckness.

And then we realized that we weren't meant to do this alone.

Nobody WANTS to change. Nobody WANTS to feel uncomfortable. But when you're ready for change, you need a community to support you. Every week, we are humbled and inspired by the support and insight shared in our ming+ming classes.

And every week, we log-in as students. Not because it's our company, but because we need it too.

We are still works-in-progress, but we can truly say that we're enjoying the lives we work so hard to create. That's something we couldn't imagine 5 short years ago.

If you can relate to our story and dream of freedom from the stresses of your daily life, start here. Let's chat about how we can help you move forward with confidence.

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

WARNING! Do NOT take this QUIZ if you’re not ready to make changes

WARNING: Please do not proceed if you are not ready to let go of:

• self-deprecation

• powerless dialogue

• “better than” syndrome

• negative judgements

• harsh critiques

• satisfaction with the status quo

• single check-off box mentality

• avoidance of personal responsibility

The following content and subsequent actions applied will lead to uncomfortable feelings for yourself and others. Change is uncomfortable and yet, we all have to go through it.

This quiz and the FREE PDF download on Value-Based Decision Making (VBDM) will create changes in your life. Changes that allow you to live more authentically with who you are.

Using VBDM can lead to shifts in your opinion, changes to your routine, and challenge your limiting beliefs. This is the tool that will bring you back home to who you truly are, but only if you are ready to use it. Harsh truths will follow and adjustments to your relationships will have to be made.

However, we guarantee you will enjoy your life more when you start to make decisions in alignment with your values.

ARE YOU READY FOR REAL CHANGE? If so, this quiz is for you!

TAKE THE QUIZ

Then REPLY IN THE COMMENTS and let us know if you’re a Perfectionist, People-Pleaser, Protector, or Problem Solver. We’re dying to know what you get!!!

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

We don’t teach yoga or meditation

What we teach is how to pause.

Because it’s only in stillness that awareness lives. And change can only follow awareness.

We all know how hard it is to slow down, especially in these times when productivity reigns supreme. The pause is the tool that helps you develop your skills.

ming+ming classes are specifically designed to strengthen the life skills we are lacking to process, understand, let go, and live authentically and intentionally.

Our classes are the forced pause we all need to reflect, validate, and be our own solutions.

Superficial wellness is always ready to give you a great tip, an inspiring quote, and enticing before-and-after photos, but Real Wellness gives you the how to.

Real Wellness is the good, the bad and the ugly – It’s ALLLL the truths.

We are not teaching yoga or meditation. What we are teaching is:

• How to unwind, and slow down

• How to feel uncomfortable and sit with it

• How to check in with ourselves

• How to give ourselves the permission to adjust

• How to show up for ourselves

• How to contract one part of ourselves as we relax another

• How to rest and just be

• How to prioritize our needs

• How to come up with creative solutions

• How to accept multiple truths

• How to accept where we are

• How to commit to ourselves

• How to face our shadow selves

• How to like ALL of ourselves

• How to redefine our own worth

• How to do something different

• How to say “thanks, but not right now” to your brain

• How to be present

• How to be grateful

• How to be intentional

• How to be authentic

• How to forgive and let go

• How to make space

What ming+ming classes do is help you find yourself so you can learn how to trust in your abilities, and live your life with more confidence and ease. Our teachers are trained to guide you through, one step at a time.

And if one of us isn’t teaching the class, we’re taking the class. 

“Sometimes I just log into class and lie down the entire time. I don’t want to distract others with what I’m doing so I turn off my camera and find comfort in my own room. It’s been a great way for me to strengthen my Life Flex of showing up for myself, but especially in a way that’s specific to my needs. I would never have done this in an in-person class. I’d be way too embarrassed to look like a freak. So doing this through Zoom, in the comfort of my own home, allows me to really tap in and ask myself what I truly need at this moment.  And sometimes it’s just to lay down, guilt-free, and breathe.”

– Ming-Cee Ryan (co-owner ming+ming)

ENGAGE with ming+ming meditation

One of the most powerful discoveries we’ve made on our healing journeys is that we are not supposed to do this alone.

For years we both suffered in silence. We thought our problems weren’t real problems, so who would want to hear us complain about our privileged life? We felt lost and ashamed that we weren’t enjoying the lives we were working so hard to create.  We didn’t let anyone know (not even each other!) since we thought something must be wrong with us.

Now that we can reflect on these parts of our journey, we recognize that we were wrong to think we couldn’t share our honest and true emotions. We now realize how disconnected we were with ourselves when we couldn’t even validate our own feelings.

When we first started to share our personal healing journeys on ming+ming, we didn’t understand the full potency of this tool until we started to build our community. Now we know that the power of sharing our story helps to heal ourselves AND to help others on their healing journeys.

ming+ming ENGAGE step 9 is Your Story + Our Community.

When we find the courage to share our true emotions, the shame fades as others nod their heads and show solidarity. The fear of the unknown dissipates as we connect over similar experiences. And the limiting belief that something is wrong with us begins to break down when we connect over our struggles.

Telling our story is a powerful tool that jump-started our healing journeys. It allowed us to validate our emotions and forgive past mistakes, and helped us to realize we have the power to change our story if we have the courage to do things differently.

Are you ready to share your story?
Are you ready to do things differently?
Are you ready to truly be seen and heard in a safe space with like-minded people? 

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We’ll see you there!

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

ming+ming CHANGE steps

ming+ming CHANGE steps:
7. effort + goals
8. reflection
9. your story + our community

When we finally get to the place where we know we need change, we don’t like to wait for it and we want it to happen now. We’ve been conditioned to expect instant gratification but this only sets us up for disappointment when change doesn’t come soon enough. 

And because we have been through our own personal growth journeys, we understand that change only occurs when the discomfort becomes bad enough that change is our only option left. And when things are that uncomfortable, we want change to happen immediately.

But if you’ve been following along, you know by now that real, sustainable change only occurs after we have put in the work to understand why we want to change, and what we want to change into. When deeper meaning supports our desire to change, then the slow progression, the upkeep, and the continual investment shifts from “having to” to “wanting to.”

And that is the secret to making this journey less uncomfortable, less overwhelming, and increases the longevity of our success.

The ming+ming CHANGE steps are the steps that will allow you to face the challenges that come with doing things differently for the first time.

These steps remind you of your new found perspective and helps you start rewriting what was once your limiting beliefs.

These steps give you the opportunity to see where else you have been holding yourself back. 

It’s in these steps that you fully realize the power you hold within to heal, grow and create a life you truly enjoy.

It is in these CHANGE steps that you will experience the results of showing up for yourself consistently.  It’s where you begin to experience the benefits to all the hard work you’ve put in so far.  It is here that you will realize what you once thought impossible for yourself was only a lack of understanding of what was holding you back. You will discover what you are truly capable of and the value that you alone bring to this world.

As you continue to experience these new shifts (big and small) and the more time you have to reflect on how far you have come, you begin to embrace a whole new meaning to life. What you once thought you “had to do” will transition into what you “want to do” and that will allow you to make the real, sustainable changes to start enjoying the life you work so hard to create.

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

 our tool for the CHANGE steps are the ming+ming 11 steps.

Let us explain…

When we first admitted to ourselves that we were not enjoying the lives we’d been working so hard to create, we felt guilty, ashamed and confused as to why.

As we’ve started our own healing journeys, we now realize that we’ve unknowingly created habits that have disconnected ourselves from who we are and our needs.

From a young age, we developed people-pleasing skills to keep the peace.  

We were conditioned to prioritize how others viewed us before we had a chance to check in with ourselves.  

We were told in subtle, yet consistent ways that we weren’t good enough and we had to keep performing to prove our worth.  

We took on roles and identities that made us look great on the outside, but empty and discontent on the inside.

We finally realized the root cause of our unhappiness was because we didn't really know ourselves so we couldn’t fulfill our own needs.

We knew real, sustainable change had to start with ourselves, but where and how?  We had spent our entire lives training to do everything “right,” so how could we be so lost?

The ming+ming 11 steps came to us organically as we turned our attention inside and began to peel away our facade so we could understand our emotions. Learning to respond to them instead of just reacting to them. 

It’s through the 11 steps that we learned that NOTHING was wrong with us, we had just found our work.  We were discovering the work it takes to heal, discover ourselves, and to live authentically.

The 11 steps allows us to find the deeper understanding of where we are on our journeys, and to stay focused on what small changes will give us the biggest impact and the most relief from our struggles. 

It allows us to change at our own pace in our own way. 

It keeps the noise of comparison down.  

The ming+ming 11 steps teaches us HOW to change and we know they work because we use them over and over again. Real, sustainable, lasting change is a process, not a destination.

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ming+ming ACTION steps

Step 4. your way
Step 5. let it flow + let shit go
Step 6. breaking down the woo-woo
Step 7. effort + goals

Taking action doesn’t have to be a grand gesture or something visible for all to see. For us at ming+ming, it’s quite the opposite. Our action steps are designed to encourage small shifts, mainly in our thought process and our mindsets. 

These steps are personal, they are steps that are done by you, for you, and no one else.
 

“To change... you must ignore how you feel and just do it anyway. I may not be perfect, but I am worthy. It's not the big moves that change everything—it's the smallest ones in your everyday life that do.”
- Mel Robbins -

Our ACTION steps continue your journey towards deeper self-discovery. They are also the steps that allow you to start to create subtle shifts and small adjustments that fit into your personal lifestyle and unique living situation.

These steps are also designed to create space mentally, emotionally and physically. And with more space, you find more time to prioritize what brings meaning to your life instead of rushing around performing to others' expectations.

With this deeper understanding, you’ll be able to build healthier habits and clear out what isn’t serving you anymore. You’ll learn the skills to truly let go of limiting beliefs so you can imagine a life with different possibilities.  

In the ming+ming ACTION steps, you will discover creative ways to address the discomfort that has been keeping you stuck. Working through these steps will help you continue to heal and grow from past experiences you didn’t know were impacting your current quality of life. 

These small changes may not seem significant, but they are the building blocks for bigger and more tangible change to come.

Have you ever tried to make healthy changes in your life only to find yourself discouraged that you can’t seem to focus and stay on track?  

Then your work probably lies in the ACTION steps. It is here that you will strengthen your devotion to making different decisions, despite the discomfort. These steps are personalized to meet you where you are right now, to fit into your current situation and unique lifestyle so you can experience longevity in your efforts and successes.

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

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CONFESSION: My pre-trip freak out 😵‍💫

A few weeks ago, I was gearing up for a wonderful trip to London and Paris with my family. I had been looking forward to it because London is my happy place and it had been over a decade since my husband and I had visited on our honeymoon. 

In the middle of wrapping up projects at work, packing up, and getting a last minute haircut, I started feeling guilty and questioning if it was a mistake to spend all this money on a trip. I felt worried that the kids wouldn’t feel like walking all day or trying new food and it would be a waste of time and money. I was scared that I would forget something important. I was starting to spiral with anxiety and worried I was making the “wrong” decision.

And this is where my ming+ming foundational steps came in handy.

Step 1 - Negative Reel. To be honest, I don’t always notice my negative self-talk. What I do notice is how I FEEL. So when I noticed I was feeling guilty and questioning my decisions, it led me to recognize how I was talking to myself - with judgment, with hypothetical scenarios, with fear.

Step 2 - Ego vs. Identity. Fortunately, I used our go-to tool of value-based decision making (VDBM) before I bought my tickets to Europe. So I went back to my list of values to reassure myself that I made this INVESTMENT in alignment with my identity. My values are FAMILY, which includes traveling with them; FREEDOM to see and experience the world and different cultures; and CONNECTION with people and places.

Step 3: Your Why. My why is to bring more compassion and empathy into the world. You may be wondering how taking a European vacation supports that. Well, I believe that empathy and compassion for others starts with connection so it helps to expose ourselves to different people, different cultures, and to feel small in this beautiful world. It’s humbling and empowering at the same time and that helps me live my why.

Having my ming+ming steps helped me to feel back in control. I could focus on what I had to get done instead of wasting my time worrying about if I had made the right decision or what others were going to think about it.

This in turn allowed me to sleep better so I didn’t get sick before my trip and to be more efficient in getting all the last minute things done before we left for the airport. 

With love,
Ming-Wai

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FACE: Foundation, Action, Change, Engage

What step are you on?
Find out with Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee
Live Q+A: May 16th 8pm ET | 5pm PT
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There’s a few things you should know about ming+ming…

Our goal is to change the tone of healing because we believe that “there is nothing wrong with you, [you’ve just] discovered your work.” –Rabbi Mordecai Finnley

The work you’ve discovered will lead you through an uncomfortable, complex, and difficult journey inward. And though you may be well aware of the journey you must take, feeling overwhelmed, confused, and the fear of the unknown is what keeps you stuck. These emotional states leave you stagnant – deeply wanting change in your life but lost on where to start.

We know exactly how that feels because we’ve been there too, and frankly, we’re still working through it. That’s why we’ve created steps to help us navigate this difficult journey. 

• These are the steps that help us find our footing when we’re spiraling out of control. 

• These are the steps we come back to when we inevitably fall off the wagon. 

• These are the steps that help us monitor our progress when things don't seem to be changing fast enough. 

• These are also the steps that keep us focused on our progress when the noise of comparison makes us feel unworthy or not good enough.

We’d like to introduce you to FACE: The steps you need to FACE your challenges.

Foundation: steps 1-4 
Action: steps 4-7
Change: steps 7-9
Engage: steps 9-11

How it works:

• These steps, and the tools associated with them, allow you to understand your personal struggles that keep you stuck and unmotivated.  

• This deeper understanding then gives you the ability to release any guilt or shame, forgive and move on.

• This shift opens up the opportunity for you to make different decisions – ones that are aligned with your values, instead of other people’s expectations.  

When you start making decisions based on your values, it connects you deeper to who you are and it helps eliminate the second guessing or the many hours of “should-ofs and could-ofs” eventually giving you back more time, energy, and even money to continue moving forward on your personal growth journey.

As one of our ming+ming members described it: 

“The steps teach you how to hear yourself again, and the tools allow you to trust what you hear”
–N. Wolcott

If you are interested in learning more about these steps and how they can be applied to your unique and personal struggles, then join us, May 16, 2023 at 8PM ET/ 5PM PT to connect with us LIVE. This FREE q+a session will allow you to talk to us directly as we guide you through our steps and show you how to apply them to your life.  All you have to do is sign up and show up…it’s a great first step!

With love,
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

What are the ming+ming 11 steps? Read more here

Have you done everything “right” but feel lost and confused because you don’t feel like you are enjoying your life?  Our steps can help! Read more here

Do you connect with this quote:
“There is nothing wrong with you. You discovered you work”
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