My grandfather (aka Gung Gung) died in 1996 when I was 15 and it was one of the most impactful moments in my life. He was the center of our family. He was our stability. He was unconditional love. And suddenly, he was gone.
For years, I remember thinking “life would be so much easier if he was still here.” It felt unfair. I felt betrayed. I felt heartbroken. I felt lost.
I didn’t know myself then. I only knew who I was in relation to him.
It’s been almost 30 years, and I occasionally find myself still tearing up and missing my Gung Gung. But in retrospect, I recognize the gift of self-discovery his death gave me.
The road was hard and scary.
I fell, I picked myself up.
I got lost, I found my way back.
I am here today stronger, wiser, more compassionate, and more confident on this wild adventure.
I am reflecting on this transitional time in my life because it feels very similar to what I’m feeling right now about America.
I am grieving. I am processing.
America is my home. My ideology. My career. My identity. My stability.
And since January 20, 2025, I feel like the America I know and love is gone and the American ideals that I embodied have forever changed.
It feels unfair. I feel betrayed. I feel heartbroken.
I feel like life would be so much easier if things hadn't changed. But they have and here we are.
The road ahead looks hard and scary from where I stand but I’ve done this before... and I can do it again.
This time around, I don’t feel as lost.
I have my tools. I have my community. I know who I am. I know my value.
I know what is right. I know what is wrong.
I am guided by my personal values, my intuition, and my purpose in life.
I believe that we heal America by healing ourselves first.
Instead of blaming others for our discomfort, ming+ming invites us inward to really know and love ourselves. The 11 step method, the tools, the classes, the 1-on-1 sessions, and the community are all in service to knowing and believing in our own unique path.
And since we can't control the chaos all around us, it's an invitation to start with ourselves first. With ming+ming, all you have to do is show up and in time, you will feel more confident navigating the craziness in your life.
I believe this with my whole being.
I'm dedicated to keep moving forward helping anyone that wants to live a life of more confidence and ease. And I know my Gung Gung is smiling and cheering me on from Heaven.
With love,
Ming-Wai
